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The Essence of The 7Habits of Highly Effective People

“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” Albert Einstein observed.  See – think – feel – behave is a chain process.  Winning is a habit, so does losing.  Learn the new level of thinking based on powerful principles presented by Stephen Covey, we can transform from inside-out and thus enjoying personal and interpersonal effectiveness.

Habit 1 – Be Proactive – Principles of Personal Vision

As human beings, we are responsible and in charge for our own lives.  Our behaviour is a function of our decisions, not our conditions.  Therefore, in whatever circumstances, we should make decision based on values rather than feelings.  We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.

Habit 2 – Begin with the End in Mind – Principles of Personal Leadership

Begin today with the picture, image or paradigm of the end of our life as a frame of reference.  By keeping the end clearly in mind, we will not violate the criteria we have defined as supremely important in whatever we do on any particular day.  Be a leader first that do right things, then be a manager that do the things right.

Habit 3 – Put First Things First -  Principles of Personal Management

Be result orientated.  Organise and execute around priorities.  To say “yes” to Quadrant II (not urgent but important) priorities, learn to say “no” to other activities, sometimes apparently urgent things.

Habit 4 – Think Win/Win – Principles of Interpersonal Leadership

It is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions.  With a Win/Win solution, all parties feel good about the decision and are committed to the action plan.  A belief in the Third Alternative.  It’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way.  3 character traits essential to Win/Win paradigm:  Integrity, Maturity and Abundance mentality.

Habit 5 – Seek First to Understand, Then to be UnderstoodPrinciples of Emphatic Communication

Seek first to understand has the greatest power in the area of interpersonal relations.  There are 5 levels of listening, which group are you in?

(a) ignoring – not really listen

(b) pretending – “Yeah. Uh-huh. Right.”

(c) selective listening – hearing only certain parts of the conversation

(d) attentive listening – pay attention & focus on the words that are being said

(e) emphathic listening – listening with intent to understand, gets inside another person’s frame of reference.

Habit 6 – Synergize – Principles of Creative Cooperation

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.  The essence of synergy is to value differences – to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses. Communicate synergistically – open our mind, heart and expressions to new possibilities.

Habit 7 – Sharpen the Saw – Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal

Preserving and enhancing the greatest asset we have – ourselves.  It’s renewing the four dimensions of our nature – physical, spiritual, mental and social/emotional in a wise and balanced way because to neglect any one area negatively will impacts the rest.  Learn, commit and do, learn, commit and do, again and again and again and again……….

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